Have you seen the popular TV advertisement of Reliance Big TV ? On hearing the first attempt of his little one to repeat simple words like apple, banana, the overwhelmed dad says Czechoslavakia!!! A cute one it is as an ad !
If we give it a little thought, most of us as parents do it. Our expectations on our kids soar up so high that we sometimes tend to forget to realize that we cease their freedom to even grow at their own pace.
It is three months and you want the tiny tod to roll over and lift his head, five months and he must crawl, eight months, you should see the first teeth and in one year, his first steps on!!! If something goes off the way, you panic and even if you don’t the social circle makes you to. “Oh, your son does not walk still, my neighbours’ daughter is one month younger and she is running. Why don’t you check with a doctor?” ….Well, that is it!
When the times comes for them to go to school, most of us under the name of the kids’ boredom, put them at play school even before they are two. I know it is hard for us to accept that we don’t find time to engage the kid at home and I am not an exception in that. Draped under the well fed fame, these popular schools, put up a milestone chart - social skills, gross motor skills ..what not! and poor little ones- just two years!!!!!!
If they do well, we as parent are not just satisfied. We want more from them. They say a rhyme, you try a story and it goes on and on. Of all things, whoever comes home, we take pride in making the little one recite and show up all his talent. But have we ever realized, how many times we hide our faces if asked to come on stage even for a game?
We want them so disciplined. But then tend to forget that it might curb their creativity. More learning comes through boredom and unstructured activities. Just leave them in the kitchen and see the wonder!! I know what it is to clean up the mess. But once in a while, we can trade off to see the real joy in the kid.
We blame the kid if we get the child a costly toy and he cares not about it in two days. Sometimes we even force them to play with it- might sound funny if we think of it now :). But how many of us as adults, got a tread mill and not used it after a week.
All this is not to convey that we leave our kid in its own way. Definitely, we need to groom them and teach them values, discipline and also bring out the talent hidden in them. Right from the days in womb, it is natural for us as parents to have dreams on our kids.But then lets not forget to give them their own pace and not curb them the joy of growing up by overtaxing them!
And ya,, this is just my thought and my experience and a learning as a mom. :)
If we give it a little thought, most of us as parents do it. Our expectations on our kids soar up so high that we sometimes tend to forget to realize that we cease their freedom to even grow at their own pace.
It is three months and you want the tiny tod to roll over and lift his head, five months and he must crawl, eight months, you should see the first teeth and in one year, his first steps on!!! If something goes off the way, you panic and even if you don’t the social circle makes you to. “Oh, your son does not walk still, my neighbours’ daughter is one month younger and she is running. Why don’t you check with a doctor?” ….Well, that is it!
When the times comes for them to go to school, most of us under the name of the kids’ boredom, put them at play school even before they are two. I know it is hard for us to accept that we don’t find time to engage the kid at home and I am not an exception in that. Draped under the well fed fame, these popular schools, put up a milestone chart - social skills, gross motor skills ..what not! and poor little ones- just two years!!!!!!
If they do well, we as parent are not just satisfied. We want more from them. They say a rhyme, you try a story and it goes on and on. Of all things, whoever comes home, we take pride in making the little one recite and show up all his talent. But have we ever realized, how many times we hide our faces if asked to come on stage even for a game?
We want them so disciplined. But then tend to forget that it might curb their creativity. More learning comes through boredom and unstructured activities. Just leave them in the kitchen and see the wonder!! I know what it is to clean up the mess. But once in a while, we can trade off to see the real joy in the kid.
We blame the kid if we get the child a costly toy and he cares not about it in two days. Sometimes we even force them to play with it- might sound funny if we think of it now :). But how many of us as adults, got a tread mill and not used it after a week.
All this is not to convey that we leave our kid in its own way. Definitely, we need to groom them and teach them values, discipline and also bring out the talent hidden in them. Right from the days in womb, it is natural for us as parents to have dreams on our kids.But then lets not forget to give them their own pace and not curb them the joy of growing up by overtaxing them!
And ya,, this is just my thought and my experience and a learning as a mom. :)
good one...:)
ReplyDeletei liked it ...particularly with navneeth on my mind...:)