Everytime I get stranded in a traffic light, the mind gets focused automatically on the street side little kids begging for money. Though one side of it gives a logical reasoning not to encourage it, as the awareness of these exploited kids is zooming in, sometimes, our emotions overcome them. How can we just shoo away a young girl begging with a small kid or a pregnant lady standing in the scorching heat bare foot? All this is just a emotional exploitation, I agree. Still most of the times it is hard to just move on. Was just thinking instead of giving them money why not help them with some handy snack you can have in the car? May be few biscuits? So that we don’t feel stone hearted at the same time not encourage the anti social elements exploit the humanity?
Monday, November 30, 2009
Smaller steps go a Long way!
“Resolutions are meant to be broken”- is this not something most of us have been hearing and in course of time believing in it too. Atleast for me, it has been true. The more I try to get organized, the more I get clumsy. There are so many promises that I make to myself almost everyday, be it very trivial from getting up early in the morning to more sensitive ones!
Anything done for 21 days becomes a practice may be a well known fact but I have never been able to reach it even once. Everytime I break it, I feel bad; but that is not it! I will be more persistent. Start all over again. The cycle goes on and on, that sometimes it has been years and I still don’t stick to them. It even leads to guilt sometimes that I am not able to do, not what others want to, instead what I myself want.
Why Is that so? Is it because I don’t give them that much importance? In that case why don’t I just discard them and move on? Why do I religiously make it from the start everytime it breaks? So, these rules or promises that I make to myself mean a lot to me but then they are easily broken as no one has forced it on me. So I take them easy. The mind has been tuned all these days to be controlled by someone that when I am my own boss, it becomes even easy to break my rules.
So, I made one more rule for myself and it kind of works better. Make your promises small. Let me not say – “I will never again get angry on anything or I will never again get emotional with anyone”. Instead, let it be “ I will be as pleasant as possible today!!, I will get up early tomorrow.
In this case it is easier to get back to the routine even if you miss it. Following it for one full week and skipping it gives me a feel to ditch it completely. And as I said I so desperately want it to happen that I start it again and that becomes an indefinite loop.
One step at a time is always better than a lifetime approach. Atleast for me it works better for now and for people like me you can sure try this out…
Anything done for 21 days becomes a practice may be a well known fact but I have never been able to reach it even once. Everytime I break it, I feel bad; but that is not it! I will be more persistent. Start all over again. The cycle goes on and on, that sometimes it has been years and I still don’t stick to them. It even leads to guilt sometimes that I am not able to do, not what others want to, instead what I myself want.
Why Is that so? Is it because I don’t give them that much importance? In that case why don’t I just discard them and move on? Why do I religiously make it from the start everytime it breaks? So, these rules or promises that I make to myself mean a lot to me but then they are easily broken as no one has forced it on me. So I take them easy. The mind has been tuned all these days to be controlled by someone that when I am my own boss, it becomes even easy to break my rules.
So, I made one more rule for myself and it kind of works better. Make your promises small. Let me not say – “I will never again get angry on anything or I will never again get emotional with anyone”. Instead, let it be “ I will be as pleasant as possible today!!, I will get up early tomorrow.
In this case it is easier to get back to the routine even if you miss it. Following it for one full week and skipping it gives me a feel to ditch it completely. And as I said I so desperately want it to happen that I start it again and that becomes an indefinite loop.
One step at a time is always better than a lifetime approach. Atleast for me it works better for now and for people like me you can sure try this out…
Parents- Roll Up Your Sleeves!
Just wondering if education was so complicated when I was in school. May be as kids we faced challenges but did the parents also had to face it? There was interesting incident which kindled this thought in me. Here it goes!
The project topic for UKG students was “Vehicles”. The student had to make a model of a vehicle and speak a few lines about it. For a five year old, I would expect the child to do some basic model with the help of parents and talk about it. This is what we must have done in our school days! Yes, the days are changing fast , I totally understand. But what I saw on the day of the project was just Extraordinary!!. I am failing to get the right word!
There came real 3D prototypes of ship, cycle and helicopter, all remarkable work!. The helicopter was even having a motor to operate. Atleast 2 people were needed to carry each of these prototypes inside the premises. A big applauds to the parents. But, is this a display of talent for the parent or the child. For such massive presentations, we are sure that the five year old could not have contributed anything. Professionals are hired in many cases. Is this what our education system or the schools want now? With few more pounds we can place a real cycle so that the child can talk better!!:) ..
Is it the teachers who impose such lavish and magnificent work or is it the self imposed competition within the parents? Whatever it is, we follow the ruling party and we know the plight of the minority who might want to question this :).
We strongly believe only these reputed schools give the best education to our kids. Though this is my opinion on some of the aspects which can focus on the kids rather than the parents, I think even I would soon start to learn the school’s expectations, and I am all set when I need to display my talent.
Go with the crowd- is that what I am saying???Well, may be :)
The project topic for UKG students was “Vehicles”. The student had to make a model of a vehicle and speak a few lines about it. For a five year old, I would expect the child to do some basic model with the help of parents and talk about it. This is what we must have done in our school days! Yes, the days are changing fast , I totally understand. But what I saw on the day of the project was just Extraordinary!!. I am failing to get the right word!
There came real 3D prototypes of ship, cycle and helicopter, all remarkable work!. The helicopter was even having a motor to operate. Atleast 2 people were needed to carry each of these prototypes inside the premises. A big applauds to the parents. But, is this a display of talent for the parent or the child. For such massive presentations, we are sure that the five year old could not have contributed anything. Professionals are hired in many cases. Is this what our education system or the schools want now? With few more pounds we can place a real cycle so that the child can talk better!!:) ..
Is it the teachers who impose such lavish and magnificent work or is it the self imposed competition within the parents? Whatever it is, we follow the ruling party and we know the plight of the minority who might want to question this :).
We strongly believe only these reputed schools give the best education to our kids. Though this is my opinion on some of the aspects which can focus on the kids rather than the parents, I think even I would soon start to learn the school’s expectations, and I am all set when I need to display my talent.
Go with the crowd- is that what I am saying???Well, may be :)
Sunday, November 1, 2009
My Best Friend
I talk to him , I fight with him, I cry to him, I get angry on him, I question him, I cannot hide anything from him, I go to him whenever something goes wrong, or I just feel him within when I need peace! Wondering whom I am talking about? Can I say it is a perfect description of a friend? For all those who know me well, can u guess whom i am talking about? Hmm..“It is God”.
I am not aware of all the lessons or meanings the great religious books offer (well, may be a little half baked knowledge), I don’t contemplate on the logic behind His presence, I utter slokas for which I don’t understand the meaning, yet I get peace from them. Whatever it is, I just believe in Him.
I may not win the arguments of an atheist or convince people that there is God and he rules the destiny of our lives. In fact, I just stay out of such conversations .Not that such conflicting talk is gonna drift me away from Him, it is just similar to we not encouraging any arguments on our beloved ones.
When my life becomes hurly-burly, I go to Him. I blame Him when I don’t get things I desire. I also question Him – “If you know my destiny why do you show me things which you know I cant possess? I have always been your friend and why are you doing this to me.” He may not answer me, just like we may not be able to answer all the questions of a kid at that point of time. I might get angry on Him for that, but I go back to Him for I Know he is my only caretaker and trust Him. At times, I don’t listen to Him and then go back weeping when I have to face the reality. For me, He is a 24*7 hospital and sometimes the medicine called “pain”, which is bitter, has to be endured , to feel better. He might make me feel the pain, but I believe He would let me sink when I can’t bear the pain. And yes, when at happy times I forget Him, he reminds His presence.
Not necessary he comes directly to help me, in so many instances, he comes in so many forms, sometimes even as a stranger. Don’t have words to describe Him, no enough knowledge to prove His presence, for me, it is just a feeling of a friend and a caretaker whom I rest on anytime when I am tired and share my joy. One who does not expect anything from me but just loves me. I need not have the fear of losing Him and I unquestioningly surrender myself to Him happily.
I am not aware of all the lessons or meanings the great religious books offer (well, may be a little half baked knowledge), I don’t contemplate on the logic behind His presence, I utter slokas for which I don’t understand the meaning, yet I get peace from them. Whatever it is, I just believe in Him.
I may not win the arguments of an atheist or convince people that there is God and he rules the destiny of our lives. In fact, I just stay out of such conversations .Not that such conflicting talk is gonna drift me away from Him, it is just similar to we not encouraging any arguments on our beloved ones.
When my life becomes hurly-burly, I go to Him. I blame Him when I don’t get things I desire. I also question Him – “If you know my destiny why do you show me things which you know I cant possess? I have always been your friend and why are you doing this to me.” He may not answer me, just like we may not be able to answer all the questions of a kid at that point of time. I might get angry on Him for that, but I go back to Him for I Know he is my only caretaker and trust Him. At times, I don’t listen to Him and then go back weeping when I have to face the reality. For me, He is a 24*7 hospital and sometimes the medicine called “pain”, which is bitter, has to be endured , to feel better. He might make me feel the pain, but I believe He would let me sink when I can’t bear the pain. And yes, when at happy times I forget Him, he reminds His presence.
Not necessary he comes directly to help me, in so many instances, he comes in so many forms, sometimes even as a stranger. Don’t have words to describe Him, no enough knowledge to prove His presence, for me, it is just a feeling of a friend and a caretaker whom I rest on anytime when I am tired and share my joy. One who does not expect anything from me but just loves me. I need not have the fear of losing Him and I unquestioningly surrender myself to Him happily.
Dream On..........
Dream- just the word puts my mind in a pleasant slumber. There were lots of times when I would get up in the morning with a fresh image of the dream I had the previous night. Sometimes I would continue the dream even after I wake up. A perfect way to describe day dreaming!!
Not always are they pleasant, they come in all categories – funny, scary and what not! Are they the result of my past incidents that are imprinted in the mind or daily happenings or the thoughts of future or just the impact of something I did last, like watching a movie just before I slept? I just don’t know.Sometimes I dream while half asleep as they go on very interesting and sometimes I wake up as if from a shock! Not sure if many of you experience the same or its just my jabbering mind that fails to rest even while it sleeps.
They are so realistic and in sync with my life that I sometime get confused whether it is real or was it a dream. If I try to recollect my exam days at school, with all eleventh hour preparation and burning midnight oil stuff, I used to hit the wake up alarm and continue completing my lesson while in dream. And then when I really wake up with the morning buzz, I realize -“Oh my god, I really have lot more and then hurry it up like a sprint, most of the times unfinished :) !” . Sounds funny when I think of it now!
There were also times when I would expect something from my dear ones (knowing that it would not happen !)and when I say that to them they just give a smile which has to be interepreted as –“DREAM ON….”, meaning that is never gonna happen!!
Did you read the recent headlines of a mystery man appearing in the dreams of many women- the picture of a man whom they have never met or seen in life? Thousands of people around the world claimed to have seen this face in their dreams. This makes dreams more interesting!!
So pondering more on dreams, I learnt another interesting fact. It is used to de-stress people. Wondering how? Researchers say one of the ways to destress ourselves is to spend atleast ten minutes dreaming consciously on things we like to do!! So I got an answer for all those who make fun of my day dreaming !
Now that dreaming has become a part of my chore, I think I might invest more time on taking a twist to it and see if it can make a positive or rather more meaningful impact to my life.
Few interesting reads, made me realize that consistent dreaming with intensity has made many people great achievers. It has been said that our intense desire on something, possess energy which is released every night as the mind falls asleep. When we get back to our conscious state, whatever has been imaged in our dream is reinforced in our mind.
So lets all dream and dream on!!. But then I don’t say just dreaming alone make it come true :))
Well, I should no more feel guilty dreaming I guess!! If it is light and pleasant then it is to de-stress, if it is a dream of strong desire, it may be a line to achievement!! Wow, what a perspective to think!! Well for people who dare to say “Just Dream on” to me- be watchful :))- for my dream may come true!!
I am not sure if this pondering on dreams was to justify my dreaming pleasure; but whatever said, I am happy with this analysis and wanted to share it with you!
Not always are they pleasant, they come in all categories – funny, scary and what not! Are they the result of my past incidents that are imprinted in the mind or daily happenings or the thoughts of future or just the impact of something I did last, like watching a movie just before I slept? I just don’t know.Sometimes I dream while half asleep as they go on very interesting and sometimes I wake up as if from a shock! Not sure if many of you experience the same or its just my jabbering mind that fails to rest even while it sleeps.
They are so realistic and in sync with my life that I sometime get confused whether it is real or was it a dream. If I try to recollect my exam days at school, with all eleventh hour preparation and burning midnight oil stuff, I used to hit the wake up alarm and continue completing my lesson while in dream. And then when I really wake up with the morning buzz, I realize -“Oh my god, I really have lot more and then hurry it up like a sprint, most of the times unfinished :) !” . Sounds funny when I think of it now!
There were also times when I would expect something from my dear ones (knowing that it would not happen !)and when I say that to them they just give a smile which has to be interepreted as –“DREAM ON….”, meaning that is never gonna happen!!
Did you read the recent headlines of a mystery man appearing in the dreams of many women- the picture of a man whom they have never met or seen in life? Thousands of people around the world claimed to have seen this face in their dreams. This makes dreams more interesting!!
So pondering more on dreams, I learnt another interesting fact. It is used to de-stress people. Wondering how? Researchers say one of the ways to destress ourselves is to spend atleast ten minutes dreaming consciously on things we like to do!! So I got an answer for all those who make fun of my day dreaming !
Now that dreaming has become a part of my chore, I think I might invest more time on taking a twist to it and see if it can make a positive or rather more meaningful impact to my life.
Few interesting reads, made me realize that consistent dreaming with intensity has made many people great achievers. It has been said that our intense desire on something, possess energy which is released every night as the mind falls asleep. When we get back to our conscious state, whatever has been imaged in our dream is reinforced in our mind.
So lets all dream and dream on!!. But then I don’t say just dreaming alone make it come true :))
Well, I should no more feel guilty dreaming I guess!! If it is light and pleasant then it is to de-stress, if it is a dream of strong desire, it may be a line to achievement!! Wow, what a perspective to think!! Well for people who dare to say “Just Dream on” to me- be watchful :))- for my dream may come true!!
I am not sure if this pondering on dreams was to justify my dreaming pleasure; but whatever said, I am happy with this analysis and wanted to share it with you!
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